Do you have the Valentine’s Day Blues?  There are a lot of singles who feel lonely on Valentine’s Day, but the caveat to that is, there are a lot of women in relationships that feel lonely on Valentine’s Day too!  This is the one holiday that will distinguish your real title of “The One” from “The Jump-Off.”   We usually already know our status, but there are certain indicators that hit home more than others, and you have no one to blame but yourself if you accept it. 

Valentine’s Day has become such an important date to us, that we don’t mind NOT spending the actual day with our significant other, just as long as some sense of acknowledgment is in place.  A band-aid, “if you will,” but when you snatch it off, the same wound and sting still exist.  Valentine’s Day has become a showcase to prove our relationship status to others.  When you go home and the reality kicks in, and you’re left to spend the evening alone, all the flowers, balloons and candy won’t be enough to soothe or mend your broken heart.  If you’re consumed by the visual presentation, you’re setting yourself up for failure. 

If you don’t actually have a “Valentine”, use this as a day to love yourself and not allow yourself to be depressed and  defined by ONE day.  Don’t get me wrong, if you have someone in your life, certainly you should expect to spend it together in your own special way.  In the meantime, start treating yourself the way you want someone else to treat you.  Therefore, the next time Valentine’s Day rolls around, and you have that special “boo” you know exactly what to expect and leave little room for disappointment! 

Love shouldn’t take you out of character, or be dictated to you.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

-Terry D.