If you continue to be involved in unhealthy relationships, it almost becomes like an infection that eats away at your heart.  We condition our minds to believe that we either don’t deserve more, or we just haven’t figured out how to break the cycle.  If we have only ever witnessed dysfunctional relationships, we tend to follow the same patterns.  Being involved in these relationships can deplete our self-esteem and fool us into believing that we have no self-worth.  Before you even realize it, you’re always generalizing all men as “Cheating no good dogs” and have convinced yourself that there are no good men left.  When our friends speak about their relationships, we quickly begin judging them, and doubting their sincerity.  It’s difficult for us to even fathom ever experiencing a healthy relationship, let alone believing that others are involved with someone who isn’t unfaithful, abusive or disrespectful. 

In order to break this ugly cycle, you have to first learn to love yourself, which is why it’s been so difficult to attract the right man.  Your lack of confidence and self-esteem sticks out like a sore thumb and will leave you vulnerable.  You also have to believe that there are actually good men that still exist, and that you deserve one; and you’re better than what you previously led yourself to believe.  Stop speaking ill will into your life, and welcome love instead.  Iron sharpens iron; therefore, you have to make sure that you are surrounding yourself around people who are involved in positive and healthy relationships.  Your confidence will certainly exude and command nothing less than what you deserve.  You are good enough, but if you don’t believe that, no one else will either. 

Resist the devil, and he will flee.  James 4:7

Terry D.