Failed relationships can always be traced back to a man? Not so much… Maybe he broke your heart, but I’m sorry to tell you, he’s not solely responsible. The problem with this is, insecurities control more of our actions and reactions, than any one person. We give away our power, when we blame others for our choices… It’s more about The WO(man) in the Mirror! No single or collective myriad of relationship failures can be attributed to another person. Sometimes, it’s because of habitual and inherited generational curses, insecurities and the yearning for love – whether it’s good for us or not.
As soon as something goes wrong, we lash out at the “OTHER” woman! Namely, women we don’t even know, but hold responsible for all of our own relationship woes.
I’ve been to hell and back in relationships, but it made me the woman I am today, but I had to search myself;
•Why did I allow someone to NOT honor the woman I know I am?
•Why did I stay?
•What did I do to deserve this?
•What will I do to change Me?
•How did I not know?
•How did I keep forgiving him?
I don’t negate the fact that its wrong for someone to disrespect you, but we have to respect ourselves, but more importantly, LOVE US enough to move pass our past, forgive THEM, forgive ourselves and not hold anyone else accountable for our choices…
I love me too much, to allow someone else not to! You can never want for someone, what they don’t want for themselves.
The woman you see in the mirror now, will look different than she did then…
Awareness = Accountability
Blame = Denial