Idealism of love often keeps us from that very thing, because we view it as a fairy tale. BUT, when our dreams of love don’t quite turn out as we’ve always imagined, it not only taints our views, but it leaves a stain in our spirit that makes us question if real love is possible… And everyone that tries to love us, has a higher price to pay than they can afford!
We put so much pressure on the person that wants to love us, because we blindside them by expecting them to live up to a fantasy. We want them to make up for an absent father, a cheating lover, failed relationships and fill the void of love that we aren’t always capable of even showing to ourselves.
So what’s the point?
Glad you asked… Essentially, we are responsible for our own happiness. We have to take back our power! Take back our hearts! Not allow our past to be a constant crutch.
STOP blaming your past, stop holding every single person responsible, because you haven’t let go. The hard truth is; sometimes we can’t let go, because we don’t believe we can, or it feels comfortable, and better than facing the truth. We become familiar with discontent and pain! Men don’t mind rescuing you, because they like feeling needed, but what they don’t like is to be made to feel like a punching bag, or fighting an uphill internal and unresolved battle!
Coach Terry D.