Don’t deviate – say what you mean, and mean what you say – enough of the foolishness. Why is it so easy to just ward off what you want? Yes, love is about compromise and sacrifice, but doesn’t compromise mean that both people should be involved?
If you want to be married, then you need to say so, be unapologetic and STOP negotiating your happiness. Dating is not a career, unless that’s what you want. Why would you date someone for years, give them everything that encompasses marriage, but never require the commitment. “Why marry the cow, when you can get the milk for free is REAL!” It seems to be a new trend for women to claim men as their husband, and nothing could be further from the truth! My hubby this, my hubby that. Yeah, you feel like the wife, because for all intent and purposes, it’s the role you’re “playing.”
So let me get this right. He’s afraid of commitment, but doesn’t have a problem with shacking with you, having sex, paying bills together, attending family functions, even owning a house and car together, and I’m sorry, but maybe I’m a little slow… Isn’t that commitment?
Maybe you’re afraid of losing them, maybe you’re afraid you’ll have to be alone, but guess what, news flash: how can you lose what you really don’t have. Look at it like this – if something ever happened to either of you, what would now happen to the things you’ve attained together?
You don’t live forever, and while you’re here, you matter as well be able to operate in what makes your heart happy. Now that ‘s not to say that we marry just anyone, but find someone who you can be friends with, someone you have some things in common with.
Set expectations and treat yourself the way you want to be treated. Dress to impress you, and if you want to honestly attract someone who will value you, you should actually be worried about what others think. You’re auditioning for your future, not a video. Honestly, sometimes we tell ourselves we want things out loud, but inside, we secretly don’t believe it, so that actually supersedes what your mouth is saying, and it shows, even when we’re masking the pain and discontent that we often subconsciously harbor.
We teach others how to treat us by our language, our own expectations, our values, the way we dress and the people we surround ourselves around.
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