We subconsciously live our lives based on what has been fed into our spirits.
How many of us live our lives based on expectations? It’s not easy to keep up appearances for something that was either taught or mimicked! Despite how much we fight it, our actions and attitude become a reflection of what’s on the inside.
No matter how many lies we bury, the truth will always rear its ugly head. We have repetitive relational behaviors, and it’s easier to blame others, but the truth is; we came to the relationship with baggage that keeps us from fully emotionally connecting. Yes, it’s true that relationships suffer from lack of communication, finances and infidelity, but how much of this is a learned behavior. No matter how much you don’t want to believe it, words carry power, and we subconsciously replay them in our heads, and as a result, carry them into our adult lives, and they take on a part of our character.
How many times have you heard?
- Men don’t cry
- Do as I say, and not as I do
- Men don’t express their feelings
- You’re too young to settle down
- Don’t worry about what he does, as long as he takes care of home
- Don’t upset him
- You’re going to be a player
- Get your money, if you’re going to sleep with someone
- Always keep you a spare, because everyone cheats
Seemingly harmless statements prove to be just the opposite.
At some point, we have to take ownership for our baggage and choices. Our learned behaviors are often passed down from generation to generation, and our dysfunctions become a normality, because accepting and facing the truth means actually having to be accountable.
If two people have been taught the same dysfunctional behaviors, it’s difficult to find balance. We fight, we become bitter and we look for a scapegoat. If we’re blessed enough to have someone that was not taught these same behaviors, we emotionally exhaust them, because we become needy, and they not only become a punching bag, but also an emotional receptacle.
Our emotional health has to be a priority. It will allow us to heal past wounds, release generational curses and function in relationships without fear or waiting for the ball to drop. The truth really will make you FREE! Free to LIVE and LOVE on your terms.
If you want to know how I learned to start living my truth, check out my book, My Truth – https://www.amazon.com/My-Truth-Short-Stories-Pain/dp/1478785225/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1508221603&sr=8-1&keywords=my+truth+terry+connor
2 thoughts on “Is Your Truth Buried in a Lie?”
Terry D, this is good stuff!
I’m guilty of all of the above; however, being single (without dating at all) has taught me a lot about relationships, what I want and what I don’t want. I affirm myself DAILY and I believe every bit of what God’s Word has said about me. I AM so open and ready to love and I have made a vow to not bring baggage from previous relationships into my next one and I will NOT hold him accountable for what Jo Blow said or did to me. It’s unfair, not to mention unhealthy. I’m ready for a fresh start and I know I will receive the postive energy and vibes I exhaled and spoken into the atmosphere.
Thanks for the articles! I love your writings.
Peace and Blessings…🦋🦋
Nicole Jean – Thank you! I have witnessed your amazing transformation, and couldn’t be more excited about what God is doing, and the favor he has on your future! Your husband is in for a treat! ❤️😘👊🏾