Category Archives: Dreams and Visions

Thank You Nelson Mandela! 1918 – 2013


“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” Nelson Mandela

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Pre – The Best Man Holiday!


bestmanThere has been almost an entire year of build up for the sequel of The Best Man Holiday! Talk about marketing! Kudos to Director, Malcolm D. Lee. The Trailers, Cast Interviews, Talk Show Blitz, and the anticipation is finally over! It is in theaters TODAY!

Couples, groups of girlfriends, bloggers, critics, book clubs and others are flocking to the theaters in droves, and pre-ticket sales have skyrocketed! What makes movies like this so magnetic?

WHY?  Because love stories offer hope, and besides, deep down, people still believe in love, and why not? It doesn’t have to be bought, it feels good, and God is love!

I’ll be back later this weekend, with my BLOGGER views on the movie.

Enjoy, and happy viewing!
Stay tuned…

Terry D.

What’s Holding You from Love? Is it the Pain? The Past? Is it YOU? 


Idealism of love often keeps us from that very thing, because we view it as a fairy tale. BUT, when our dreams of love don’t quite turn out as we’ve always imagined, it not only taints our views, but it leaves a stain in our spirit that makes us question if real love is possible… And everyone that tries to love us, has a higher price to pay than they can afford!

We put so much pressure on the person that wants to love us, because we blindside them by expecting them to live up to a fantasy.  We want them to make up for an absent father, a cheating lover, failed relationships and fill the void of love that we aren’t always capable of even showing to ourselves.

So what’s the point?

Glad you asked… Essentially, we are responsible for our own happiness. We have to take back our power! Take back our hearts!  Not allow our past to be a constant crutch.

 STOP blaming your past, stop holding every single person responsible, because you haven’t let go.  The hard truth is; sometimes we can’t let go, because we don’t believe we can, or it feels comfortable, and better than facing the truth. We become familiar with discontent and pain! Men don’t mind rescuing you, because they like feeling needed, but what they don’t like is to be made to feel like a punching bag, or fighting an uphill internal and unresolved battle!

Love doesn’t look the same for everyone, but you also discover that your failed relationships only mocked love, because your heart is riddled with strongholds that have not been released.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Coach Terry D.

If I Knew Then, What I Know Now


ipad 179Sometimes, we often reflect on our past, and say, “If I knew then, what I know Now.” It is my belief that if I had been equipped with the unforeseen, would I have appreciated the process? There’s always the what ifs, but the process inevitably prepares us for the promise. There are never any chance meetings, but rather pit stops that are temporary detours that may alter our course, but never delaying the destination.

Woe is me, what did I do to deserve this, are the questions we play on repeat in our minds. You are not a victim! Life’s experiences are like a large puzzle, that has those missing pieces that you just can’t seem to figure out, but once you do, you feel a sense of accomplishment, and you exhale. Once you position that last piece, you are very careful not to disturb it, but looking for the most strategic way to place it on a solid foundation, to hold it together.

Now it all seems to make a little more sense. When you’re in the thick of any situation, it seems so much easier to just throw in the towel, but this is your maturing stage, going through the puberty of love and life. It’s uncomfortable, things are changing that we’re not accustomed to, but it’s a part of the preparation.

Appreciation comes from losing some things or people, being tested, taking things for granted and learning to let some things or someone go. If we knew they would hurt, use, abuse and walk out on us, we may just end up being the same way; because people teach you how not to treat the next person.

Take the experiences – good and bad, and they will be your guide to GOOD LOVE, and fewer regrets. Take what you know now as education and wisdom…

Terry D.

Are you reducing your chances at Love?


Are you reducing your chances of meeting him by having too many stipulations?  When you’re a teenager, you have this ideology of what Mr. Right will look like, what kind of car he will drive, etc.  Well as you mature, you begin to prioritize and rationalize these same expectations of perfection.  You come to learn that he may not be 6’4”, light with hazel eyes and driving the Maybach Benz.  If you’re seeking true love, stability and a solid foundation, you have to make sound and mature choices.

As women, it’s difficult to dismiss our idea of what we’ve always wanted, even if we know it’s outside of the realm of reality.  It’s almost as if we’ve conformed to what society says a “Successful couple” looks like, but that doesn’t create happy or lasting relationships.  It doesn’t matter what someone else thinks, as long as he makes you happy. 

Does the complexion of someone, the car they drive or the job they hold define their character?  How can you ever be sure of what your type is, if you have tunnel vision?  Sure, we all want this picture perfect mate, but that’s just not reality.  I”m not suggesting that you have to settle for someone you don’t want, but to simply open your mind.  Until you expand your limited mindset, you may just find yourself single a little longer.  Standards and stipulations are not the same thing, and it’s up to you to decide what’s important to you, true happiness or only what it looks like from the outside. 

Open your mind to the endless possibilities and increase your odds!

 -Terry D.