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Don’t Just Stop At I Love You…


Love is not new, and it doesn’t have to be reinvented, but you do have to put in the work.   It’s not something that you pray for, and STOP there. 

Complacency is the enemy of achieving a solid foundation.   I don’t care how long you’ve been with someone, it doesn’t give you a license to:

1.  Quit caring about their feelings
2.  Caring about your appearance
3.  Communicating your feelings
4.  Stop dating one another
5.  Stop complimenting one another
6.  Stop having fun
7.  Stop loving them like it was the 1st time

This journey is not for the faint at heart, or those who have no staying power.  You have to be in this, and be willing to put in the work.

Your #$@& does stink, and so you have to learn to put up with a few things that may not always smell like roses, and you may get a few pricks along the way, but keep planting seeds of love, endurance and patience!   Love keeps no record of wrong.  Let that ish go, and on to the next! 

Don’t just stop at I love you. Love is an action word…

Terry D.
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If I Knew Then, What I Know Now…


I wonder if I knew that although you’re a man, but still carry my sometimes loud words of discord and negativity to the core of your heart, and how it emasculated you, would I still be so inconsiderate? If I knew that sometimes, you just need me to listen to you and SHUT UP, you need me to run you some bath water, and let you have a few moments, would I take all your burdens to heart, and leave them where they belong (in the streets), and just love you, even stroke your ego, when needed and let you melt into my arms, lay your head on my breast, take a deep breath and allow us to become one?

You see, I wonder if you knew how many nights I sat up and cried, how many conversations I’ve had with you in the mirror, would you still lie to me, would you still cheat on me, would you still dishonor me, by laying with me, and not only never marry me, but not even love me? If you knew that when we broke up for the 5th time, that along with that went my trust, a piece of me, and with all that, I gained insecurities and probably a few pounds? If you saw your daughter go through this same pain and anguish, would you turn over a new leaf?

Is it too late for me to learn to honor you as a man, and will you now see me in a different light?

If only we could have a day to live inside the heart of the person we love, maybe it would shift the winds of love, and begin to bridge the gaps of divorce, teach us how to appreciate the opposite sex for who they are, and not for who we want them to be. We could be trendsetters for generations of couples to come…

Terry D.