Yes, in the first season, Mary Jane dated a married man, she slept around, and although in this season; she may still be wrestling and grappling to gain some sense of relationship normalcy, she is still at a crossroad. Let’s not judge, because we all have been there, going through it, or may even be on our way there; or at best, we can say that we’ve had some major relationship deficiencies, at one time or another. So many everyday women, like you and me, not only identify with her, but also have our own demons that keep our hearts hostage to pain and heartbreak!!! We almost begin to believe this is “Our normal!” Mary Jane’s myriad of spiraling emotions are nothing short of what most black women endure in relationships! All we need is a glimpse of hope, and it will keep us emotionally bound and gagged, but it’s that fight that keeps us going, and that same fight makes us lie to all those involved, including ourselves. It is, however, very difficult to keep up the deception, before someone begins to witness us unravel before their very eyes! All of Mary Jane Paul’s relationships seem to border on some form of being dysfunctional. She is the glue that keeps her family together, she has a friend that resents her, therefor; her refuge is sex and alcohol. She feels safe when she has a moment that she is not juggling so many balls in the air, because no one expects that she should ever show any signs of weakness. Does she want more than sex? Absolutely, and so do so many women, but somehow, it all gets lost in the translation of life, what we mistake for love and mediocrity begins to become acceptable. Even in the roughest of times, Mary Jane finds a way to keep her head on straight, long enough to begin saying no to things that aren’t serving her. What keeps us hanging on is addiction – it’s not always love. We can truly become addicted to a person, and like any other addiction, we need HELP to kick the habit! We can’t let go, because we reminisce on what could have been… We don’t delete the text messages, we look at old pics and we insist on closure, just so that we can have an excuse to hold onto false hope. Mary Jane Paul is making decisions that she doesn’t realize are controlled by emotional disparity, and not because of a biological clock, but it’s all a smoke screen that would otherwise force her to face the truth. It’s not an overnight or one size fit all solution. It’s a matter of acknowledgment, accountability and the courage to forgive ourselves and to learn to simply say, “NO!” Soooo, What’s next… Terry D.
Do celebrities think they operate above the rim of morals, because they know all will be forgotten and forgiven in a matter of weeks or months, with no further mention or real consequences? After watching the following story unfold, maybe we’re so forgiving, because we’ve seen these stories play out before us, and if the person involved can forgive, then who are we not to? Gabrielle Union tweeted, “The goal is NOT perfection… The goal is to be whole.”
This brings me to:
Dwyane Wade and his recent news fallout of his love child, Xavier Zechariah Wade, born in November, 2013. Wade confirmed that he did indeed father a son with Aja Metoyer. Wade acknowledged the development to the Sun Sentinel, he said: ‘I had a time, a part in our break, in our pain and our hurt, a blessing came out of it in my life, having a son that was born healthy. So I’m moving on.’ It is reported that Gabrielle had to step away from Wade, when first learning of the news, but they worked through their differences, prior to their engagement! Everyone is weighing in on this story, and as the story continues to unfold, so does more details on who is Aja Metoyer. One thing for sure, she is showing her true colors, and just how messy she really is, by writing this very detailed Letter to Ms. Union.
Wade proposed to Gabby 6 weeks after his son was born, which he enlisted the assistance of his 2 sons and nephew he’s raising. Both contend that the child was conceived during a break the two took from one another, but all roads lead to evidence of a different color. The two were reportedly very much together during conception, but that’s neither here nor there, since they’ve worked through it.
To make matters a bit more interesting, the mother of his child, is also the mother of 2 daughters, fathered by Damon Wayans Jr., the son of Damon Wayans, who issued a brief statement about the mother of his 2 daughters.
Forgiveness, Foolishness or Fate?
Everyone wants to know how Gabrielle would stay with Wade, with all that has transpired. Others say that its karma, because she dated him, while he was still married. Did she forgive him, because she loves him? Is it foolishness for her to think he won’t, or has not continued with his infidelity, or was it really fate? For some reason, we think celebrities are cut from a different cloth than us. At the end of the day, they just have more money and notoriety than we do, but they’re still human. Love is love, pain is pain and we all make mistakes, and cry when our hearts are broken. The difference is, we don’t have our lives played out for all the world to see; and we have all forgiven people for things we aren’t proud of. Some of us have dated people in some very compromising positions, but we get to keep it all under wraps. I will say that it is easy to say what you would or wouldn’t do, if it’s not you in the spotlight.
No matter what decision she ultimately ends up making, it’s still hers to deal with and make. Let me know what you think. Please leave a comment below, and lets chat…