1. If you’re single, spend time with family and friends, attend holiday parties, go to church functions and keep yourself busy. Try to focus on all the many blessings that you have, instead of what you don’t have. When we keep our focus positive, and not allow idle minds to become the devil’s workshop, the possibilities are endless, and who knows, maybe the “single” life may be a distant memory.
2. Volunteer your time to those less fortunate, because as we’re feeling sorry for ourselves, there is always someone that is worse off than us. This usually puts things in perspective for us. Count your blessings…
3. I don’t suggest listening to sad music, or watching sad movies. As much as Christmas music and movies can be very heartwarming, they can also be just as depressing, and way too self-reflective on our failed relationships. Songs like, “What do the lonely do at Christmas,” just adds fuel to the fire. I love Christmas movies, but they can offer unrealistic offerings that just further piss you off.
4. What usually helps me is, journaling. No matter how bad it seems, when I can compare and reflect on where I was a year ago, I’m always grateful for my blessings and progression.
5. Last, but not least – OKAY, this is thinking outside the box, but I suggest googling singles groups in your area, because you are never as alone as you think you are. In order to get things you’ve never had, you’ve got to be willing to do things you’ve never done!
REMEMBER THAT FORGIVENESS IS YOUR FREEDOM TO RELEASING YOUR FEAR AND SECURING YOUR FUTURE!
NOW, let’s get started to a happier and healthier holiday season! Even if you feel sad for a moment, just remember, it won’t last forever, and that your future is so much brighter than your past!
Terry D.
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