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Are You a Wife with Benefits?


I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget you’re a man! Because I’m a WOMAN!  You remember the Enjoli commercial

PleasingherrszI hear so many women say what they wouldn’t do just because a man says he likes it. i.e. haircut, certain color lipstick. Well, now maybe that’s why you may not have a man, or can’t keep one. What’s so wrong with wanting to look good for your significant other?  Instead, because it makes us feel like we’re being weak, we do the complete opposite. That’s where we completely throw out the notion of compromise. We always say that men aren’t as complicated as us, and to me the simple things are an easy fix. Don’t be afraid to put in the extra work and effort.

“My wife only wears makeup when I’m around because she knows I like it.” -Jerry T. He also said that it makes him want to give her the world, because she cares enough to do something she wouldn’t normally do.

YOU KNOW HOW THERE ARE FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS? BE A SPOUSE WITH BENEFITS!

I had a conversation with a friend, and she shared some of the things that her husband expressed that he liked about her, and she made it happen.  She said,

“I certainly don’t do it for me, but I noticed the difference in his reaction to me, when I started doing some of the things he said he likes.” Anonymous

When we wanted to get them, we pulled out all the stops, but then we just STOP! Where/how does that make sense? When I used to tell my boyfriend that I liked his cologne, he was giddy, and when I saw him, he would have that cologne on. He knew how to dress, but considered my feelings enough to ask me what color suit he should  wear, or what color tie. These are the things that keep us interested and excited about one another. There is nothing wrong with submitting to your husband/wife. Stop trying to prove a point, because it will get you no where, but back to a single status real fast. When someone knows that you not only value their opinion, but you’re willing to go out of your way to oblige them, the possibilities are endless.

Why do we insist on making things harder than they have to be? I’m sorry, but some things are just not rocket science, and I don’t want to go through life upset and disgruntled. We complain about so many things in our relationships, and when you have simple solutions, why not just do it!  The truth is, we do those little things for him, but just don’t want him to know that.  Why play games? Let him know that you value his opinion…

Terry D.

Don’t Just Stop At I Love You…


Love is not new, and it doesn’t have to be reinvented, but you do have to put in the work.   It’s not something that you pray for, and STOP there. 

Complacency is the enemy of achieving a solid foundation.   I don’t care how long you’ve been with someone, it doesn’t give you a license to:

1.  Quit caring about their feelings
2.  Caring about your appearance
3.  Communicating your feelings
4.  Stop dating one another
5.  Stop complimenting one another
6.  Stop having fun
7.  Stop loving them like it was the 1st time

This journey is not for the faint at heart, or those who have no staying power.  You have to be in this, and be willing to put in the work.

Your #$@& does stink, and so you have to learn to put up with a few things that may not always smell like roses, and you may get a few pricks along the way, but keep planting seeds of love, endurance and patience!   Love keeps no record of wrong.  Let that ish go, and on to the next! 

Don’t just stop at I love you. Love is an action word…

Terry D.
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Quiet the Enemy


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Quiet the enemy, and claim what’s yours!  Your husband, your wife, your victory, love, peace, joy and a life of abundance.  Yesterday has no place in what’s to come…

Terry D.

The BOSS Network Blogger’s Brunch


It has always been a blessing to be in good company, and build strong relationships with like-minded professionals! As I continue to evolve, the relationship I’ve learned to have with myself, has afforded me the wherewithal, and create opportunities to open doors that continue to cultivate positive, meaningful and strong relationships with others. The Blogger’s Community is huge, not always understood, but when you’re around other Bloggers, they get it. The hustle, the passion and endless possibilities. So when I was invited to share in the BOSS Blogger’s Brunch hosted by, Cameka Smith, CEO of The BOSS Network, which stands for, Bringing Out Successful Sisters, I was beyond elated, to share in an opportunity to continue building relationships with other bloggers, because regardless of our subject focus, the relationships between us are parallel in passion and profession! Cameka hosted this BOSS Blogger’s Brunch in honor of her new partnership with Caress. We were graciously given gift bags, with tons of Spring Body Scents from Caress! #CaressMe

Caress just partnered and signed the Grammy Award a Winning a Singer, Kelly Rowland as their Spokesperson! Kelly Rowland

 

 

 

Please take a look at some of these phenomenal fellow Blogger Professionals, who were very liberal in sharing their highs, lows, successes and failures, that have ALL continued to give them unrelenting drive!

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If I Knew Then, What I Know Now…


I wonder if I knew that although you’re a man, but still carry my sometimes loud words of discord and negativity to the core of your heart, and how it emasculated you, would I still be so inconsiderate? If I knew that sometimes, you just need me to listen to you and SHUT UP, you need me to run you some bath water, and let you have a few moments, would I take all your burdens to heart, and leave them where they belong (in the streets), and just love you, even stroke your ego, when needed and let you melt into my arms, lay your head on my breast, take a deep breath and allow us to become one?

You see, I wonder if you knew how many nights I sat up and cried, how many conversations I’ve had with you in the mirror, would you still lie to me, would you still cheat on me, would you still dishonor me, by laying with me, and not only never marry me, but not even love me? If you knew that when we broke up for the 5th time, that along with that went my trust, a piece of me, and with all that, I gained insecurities and probably a few pounds? If you saw your daughter go through this same pain and anguish, would you turn over a new leaf?

Is it too late for me to learn to honor you as a man, and will you now see me in a different light?

If only we could have a day to live inside the heart of the person we love, maybe it would shift the winds of love, and begin to bridge the gaps of divorce, teach us how to appreciate the opposite sex for who they are, and not for who we want them to be. We could be trendsetters for generations of couples to come…

Terry D.

The Journey…


Laugh together…

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Play together…

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Cuddle…

Cuddle

Don’t stop dating…

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Never take the little things for granted…

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Terry D.

LOVE Yourself


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Self Love is a repellant for losers! Try it on for size, and you’ll begin to be a magnet for, “The One!” He’s out there, don’t keep him waiting…

Terry D.