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If I Knew Then, What I Know Now…


I wonder if I knew that although you’re a man, but still carry my sometimes loud words of discord and negativity to the core of your heart, and how it emasculated you, would I still be so inconsiderate? If I knew that sometimes, you just need me to listen to you and SHUT UP, you need me to run you some bath water, and let you have a few moments, would I take all your burdens to heart, and leave them where they belong (in the streets), and just love you, even stroke your ego, when needed and let you melt into my arms, lay your head on my breast, take a deep breath and allow us to become one?

You see, I wonder if you knew how many nights I sat up and cried, how many conversations I’ve had with you in the mirror, would you still lie to me, would you still cheat on me, would you still dishonor me, by laying with me, and not only never marry me, but not even love me? If you knew that when we broke up for the 5th time, that along with that went my trust, a piece of me, and with all that, I gained insecurities and probably a few pounds? If you saw your daughter go through this same pain and anguish, would you turn over a new leaf?

Is it too late for me to learn to honor you as a man, and will you now see me in a different light?

If only we could have a day to live inside the heart of the person we love, maybe it would shift the winds of love, and begin to bridge the gaps of divorce, teach us how to appreciate the opposite sex for who they are, and not for who we want them to be. We could be trendsetters for generations of couples to come…

Terry D.

LOVE Yourself


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Self Love is a repellant for losers! Try it on for size, and you’ll begin to be a magnet for, “The One!” He’s out there, don’t keep him waiting…

Terry D.

All That Glitter, Ain’t Gold, in the Wade/Union Household!


Do celebrities think they operate above the rim of morals, because they know all will be forgotten and forgiven in a matter of weeks or months, with no further mention or real consequences?  After watching the following story unfold, maybe we’re so forgiving, because we’ve seen these stories play out before us, and if the person involved can forgive, then who are we not to?   Gabrielle Union tweeted,  “The goal is NOT perfection… The goal is to be whole.”

This brings me to:

Breaking News of Dwyane Wade’s Love Child

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Dwyane Wade and his recent news fallout of his love child,  Xavier Zechariah Wade,  born in November, 2013.   Wade confirmed that he did indeed father a son with Aja Metoyer. Wade acknowledged the development to the Sun Sentinel, he said: ‘I had a time, a part in our break, in our pain and our hurt, a blessing came out of it in my life, having a son that was born healthy. So I’m moving on.’  gu leaving It is reported that Gabrielle had to step away from Wade, when first learning of the news, but they worked through their differences,  prior to their engagement!   Everyone is weighing in on this story, and as the story continues to unfold, so does more details on who is Aja  Metoyer.  One thing for sure, she is showing her true colors, and just how messy she really is, by writing this very detailed Letter to Ms. Union.

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Wade proposed to Gabby 6 weeks after his son was born, which he enlisted the assistance of his 2 sons and nephew he’s raising.  Both contend that the child was conceived during a break the two took from one another, but all roads lead to evidence of a different color.  The two were reportedly very much together during conception, but that’s neither here nor there, since they’ve worked through it.  

To make matters a bit more interesting, the mother of his child, is also the mother of 2 daughters, fathered by Damon Wayans Jr., the son of Damon Wayans, who issued a brief statement about the mother of his 2 daughters.   

Forgiveness, Foolishness or Fate?

Everyone wants to know how Gabrielle would stay with Wade, with all that has transpired.  Others say that its karma, because she dated him, while he was still married.  Did she forgive him, because she loves him?  Is it foolishness for her to think he won’t, or has not continued with his infidelity, or was it really fate?   For some reason, we think celebrities are cut from a different cloth than us.  At the end of the day, they just have more money and notoriety than we do, but they’re still human.  Love is love, pain is pain and we all make mistakes, and cry when our hearts are broken.  The difference is, we don’t have our lives played out for all the world to see; and we have all forgiven people for things we aren’t proud of.  Some of us have dated people in some very compromising positions, but we get to keep it all under wraps.  I will say that it is easy to say what you would or wouldn’t do, if it’s not you in the spotlight.

No matter what decision she ultimately ends  up making, it’s still hers to deal with and make. Let me know what you think.  Please leave a comment below, and lets chat…

Terry D.

What’s Holding You from Love? Is it the Pain? The Past? Is it YOU? 


Idealism of love often keeps us from that very thing, because we view it as a fairy tale. BUT, when our dreams of love don’t quite turn out as we’ve always imagined, it not only taints our views, but it leaves a stain in our spirit that makes us question if real love is possible… And everyone that tries to love us, has a higher price to pay than they can afford!

We put so much pressure on the person that wants to love us, because we blindside them by expecting them to live up to a fantasy.  We want them to make up for an absent father, a cheating lover, failed relationships and fill the void of love that we aren’t always capable of even showing to ourselves.

So what’s the point?

Glad you asked… Essentially, we are responsible for our own happiness. We have to take back our power! Take back our hearts!  Not allow our past to be a constant crutch.

 STOP blaming your past, stop holding every single person responsible, because you haven’t let go.  The hard truth is; sometimes we can’t let go, because we don’t believe we can, or it feels comfortable, and better than facing the truth. We become familiar with discontent and pain! Men don’t mind rescuing you, because they like feeling needed, but what they don’t like is to be made to feel like a punching bag, or fighting an uphill internal and unresolved battle!

Love doesn’t look the same for everyone, but you also discover that your failed relationships only mocked love, because your heart is riddled with strongholds that have not been released.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Coach Terry D.